Gaslighting overeacting

"Doing nice things to show someone you care is different from doing nice things for someone because you care" @jayshetty

People don't change for you, they change for themselves

Change because you care, not because they need to think you care. 

You cannot cheat gratitude. When you care deeply for people, and are thankful for them, go out of our way to do things for them from the heart. Seek not to buy their attention, favour or loyalty if your feeling towards them isn't genuine.